What is "normal" for sexuality?
I've come to realize that there is no "normal" sexuality. Not a single person that has ever lived was "normal" when it comes to sexuality. WE HAVE ALL MISSED THE MARK WHEN IT COME TO OUR SEXUALITY!!! It doesn't matter if we have homosexual feelings or heterosexual feelings (cf. Matt 5:28).
Many I know who struggle with same-sex attractions want to become "normal" and their definition of "normal" is not to be attracted to the same sex but to be attracted to the opposite sex. So for a guy struggling with same-sex attractions, he does not want to be attracted to men but he wants to be attracted to women. But is this any better?
In reality, our attractions and affections (apart from God) should only be guided, if God so chooses, toward our spouse of the opposite sex (Gen 2:24; Matt 19:4-6). So being attracted to womEn (emphasis upon the plurality of woman), is not biblical. Instead, we should be sexually attracted only to our spouse (who in my case would be a woman - my wife). This is what God intended for marriage and sex (Mark 10:6-9; Eph 5:31).
So a redeemed and pure sexuality, would be one in which (if one has been called for marriage) a person is only attracted to his wife or her husband (1 Cor 7:2), and no other person whether male or female (other than God of course). If one is called to singleness (1 Cor 7:7-8), a pure sexuality would be that our affections would only be for God (1 Cor 6:17).
posted by Christopher Yuan | 11:35 PM
7 Comments:
Chris,
I am thankful for your perspective that all of us are sexually broken. Brokenness is not related merely to homosexual relationships as is so often the only fight of many evangelicals. I've been rethinking the idea of sexual brokenness recently because I have been working through some of these ideas and ramifications with a few high schoolers in the youth group I work with. Our sexuality is broken because of sin; I may be married, but living in a fallen world makes living a sexually pure life difficult for all of God's people.
Amen. Thanks for setting up the Biblical standard.
Chris,
I so looked up to your message you spoke at our church last year. It is an amazing testimony you have & am so glad you are using your life as a living testimony to the awesome power of Christ to heal and save us who are lost! God bless you and God's ministry through your life! In response to this post, I would like to just point out that there is a difference between being "sexually attracted" to someone and "lusting" after them. We probably all know this, but I just wanted to clarify. I am a married woman, and my husband and I both think other people are "attractive" but a godly person leaves it at that. We need to learn to "glance away" and leave it at that. It is once one thought leads to another & we start desiring that person or thinking bad thoughts about them that we have sinned by lusting. But thinking someone is handsome or beautiful (sexually attractive), is not in and of itself a sin. It seems to be a very fine line though, and is harder for some to look at an attractive person without lusting - which is why we must place boundaries on ourselves and know our limits. Thank you again for all your posts and I hope that many people are touched, helped, and given hope through your message! Stay strong and live day for Christ!!! Go Chris!!!
Thanks Stephie for your words of encouragement. At what church did I speak at where you heard me?
I've heard it said that our attractions are there for us to manage. I have always found it illogical that the gay community says that they should be ok to do what they do because it's how they feel, yet most guys are said to have a major desire to sleep with every woman they can, and we expect them to control that urge and not cheat. Why must they manage their attractions while gays shouldn't? Double standard?
This article will change peoples thinking!! God Bless you for your ministry.
@baseballgrrl.. great comment!
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